Reflecting on the Past Year - 2014

Well, I hope everyone has been able to spend time with family and friends this holiday season. I love Christmas and spending time with my kids. It also allows me time to reflect on the past 12 months.

I don't want to rehash the past but rather look at all the things I've learned. I also have a new perspective to see why things may have happened the way they did. I am on this cool journey called life. It brings with it hills and valleys, twists and turns, and sometimes straight and narrow. I try my best to accept the changes that come to help make me a better person and parent. I am grateful for the opportunity to learn each day.

I believe that 2014 was a very challenging year for many. I know that I was challenged beyond anything I have experienced in my past yet I'm still here chugging along. There is a reason for these challenges. What would life be like if we never learned or changed? Life is a journey that should be embraced. I believe that we are here to learn, to love and to grow. This allows us to become the best we can be. The more we love the better life is. This year I have learned to love my kids for exactly who they are. I have also learned that each of them has their own lessons to learn. I must stand beside them and guide them but not force them down the road I want them to take. They are here for their own lessons to learn. It is a hard task to do when you care so much about them.

So for 2015, I see a year of growing and loving. I see my kids doing things that they love. I see myself doing the things that I love. I see myself learning and growing to help change the world. I am so grateful for another year to see my kids learn new things. I love the life we have. I look forward to more adventures in 2015. I look forward to all the special moments that I will share with family and friends.

I hope each person that reads this knows that you are here for a reason. You are here to do great things. You just have to look inside of yourself and find the passion. Go after what makes your heart sing. 2014 was the year for me to open my heart and see that I have so much to do in this world. 2015 will be the year where we take what we learned in 2014 and soar! Are you ready to soar?

So take the last few days of 2014 to reflect and find all of the blessings and lessons that you received. When 2015 rings in, you will be ready to spread your wings and fly.

See you in 2015!

Take care,
Keri

Happy Parents = Happy Kids

Happy December!!

I was just reading an article about how to have a long lasting relationship. I figured that I would write my own take on this subject since I have been married for over 20 years. In today's world there are so many broken relationships. I must say my determination began as a child. I watched my own parents grow apart and move on separately. This can be so hard on kids. I'm one of the lucky ones where my parents put us kids first. There are so many people who don't see what their actions do to the kids whether they are married or not. Complaining about the other parent to the child is a big no no. It's not their issue to deal with. They just need to know that they are loved.

My advice first is to start as a child. Children should know that dating is a big deal. There is no real reason to have a boyfriend or girlfriend before you are 16. I see no reason in this. The entire purpose of dating is to find that special someone and hopefully spend the rest of your life with that person. Hanging out or spending time with someone is the key to a long term relationship. You must be friends first. All relationships must have friendship to last for many years. That is why I believe the mindset needs to change for our kids to have healthy relationships. Lust only lasts a short time.

So instead of writing tons of paragraphs on this topic, I will list out the most important things that I believe help create a long loving and lasting relationship.

1. Love yourself first!! You must be willing to accept yourself for who you are before someone else will. You cannot find love on the outside. This is why people go from person to person.
2. Be friends first. You must be friends who are willing to hang out and chat about anything because when it comes time for you to deal with serious issues, you need to be able to go to this person about anything.
3. Communication!! Most relationships fall apart because one person may think the other person can read his or her mind. You must discuss things. I won't be the one to tell you how because each person and relationship is different.
4. Spend time together WITHOUT the kids. This is so important. Most people don't realize how important this is. Yes, it is wonderful spending time with your kids as a family;however, kids grow up and move away. This other person and yourself will be the only ones there. You need to stay connected to keep a long lasting relationship going.
5. Continue to grow individually. We are all here on earth to learn and grow. We tend to get wrapped up in the day to day tasks. Continue to learn new things or take new classes. Do things that make your heart happy.
6. Believe in one another. You must be the cheerleader for each other. You should encourage each other to go after your dreams. Anything is possible in this world. Keep the faith that things always work out because they do.
7. Be committed. You must be committed to each other and be willing to work things out. There will be times when one person is giving 20% and the other one 80%. It will continuously flip flop. Be willing to pick the other one up when necessary.
8. Be positive. The law of attraction truly works. If you can find the positive when things look like crap, things will turn around. If you continuously fight about money, then you will continuously get more bills. If you believe the bills will get paid, they always do.
9. See things from the other's viewpoint (be open minded). We all have ideas and opinions. You must be willing to understand the other person's viewpoint because you will not always agree on everything. It is ok to disagree. That is how we learn from one another.
10. Be open to new experiences. As we all change, so do our likes and dislikes. Be willing to compromise and try new things even if you may not like it. This is another way to grow.

I could go on and on about what I believe is successful in a long loving relationship but it is for us all to find out. We must be willing to love and learn and grow! Why else would God put us here with one  another. Think about it. Why are we here and what would complete our life? It is up to each of us to determine what our heart needs. I happen to love my life and my family and I plan to spend many more years learning, growing and sharing my knowledge with the world. I want our kids to be successful in whatever they do in life. It all begins with your family and how you can help them be the best person they can be!

Enjoy the day!!

Keri

What to Give Up to Live a Happy Life

November has been a very busy month by far. With the craziness of Thanksgiving, shopping nuttiness, and holiday shows, I thought I would tackle the subject of Happiness. happiness means different things to each of us.

I believe the first success to happiness is to first truly love yourself. The more you continue to work on this the more your heart shines. Besides having inner peace, singing songs and spending time with family can definitely put a smile on your face. Laughing with close friends or dancing in the rain can also bring a giddiness to your life.  These things may only help you to temporarily hold on to that awesome feeling.

To continuously feel happy every day of your life, you must work on giving up the negative thoughts.  It may seem impossible to stay in the positive zone but it actually takes more energy to be angry or mean.

Try to work on these 15 things to improve the happiness in your life.

1. Give up always being right. Does it really matter in the big picture? No it doesn't. It is better to be kind rather than fight about who is right and who is wrong.
2. Give up the need to always be in control. I know this can be hard for some people but it can be harmful in the long run. We are all here to learn lessons and grow. We cannot make people be or do what we want. Everyone has a life to live and to learn from.
3. Give up all blame. We all need to start taking responsibility for our own actions. We need to stop blaming people or situations. We need to change the things we don't like. We waste more energy being negative rather than being kind and loving to others.
4. Give up negative self-talk. We can all be whatever we want to be in life. God wants us to have everything we want in life. We must make lemonade out of lemons. We attract what we think about so keep the thoughts positive. We can retrain our brain that we must believe to receive.
5. Give up the limiting beliefs. We all have grown up in different ways. We were all taught different things. If we open up our minds to anything possible, we can achieve anything. 
6. Give up complaining. Yes, we all do this. I'm sure we would all agree that complaining about things only gives us headaches and irritations. By eliminating complaining, we can look at situations in a more positive way. We can look at things from a different perspective. We can choose how we react to stressful situations and try to see it from a positive note.
7. Give up criticizing. We all have opinions and see things the way we do. We should try to understand how others see things. We all want to be loved. We all want to have a happy life so we must try to understand one another.
8. Give up the need to impress others. Some people continuously try to show people what they have accomplished. We try to make others like us by being what we are not. We need to be who we are truly meant to be. It doesn't matter what others think. It matters what we think of ourselves.
9. Give up the resistance to change. We must change to get what we want in life. As we grow and learn, change is inevitable. So just go with the flow. Everything works out the way it is suppose to.
10. Give up labels. We all do it. We all say things like she is weird or he is different. We must stop doing this to move forward. We need to be open to everyone.
11. Give up the FEARS. Fears - F (false) E(emotions) A(appearing) R(real). Fears aren't real. Our mind creates illusions to deal with all kinds of stuff. Once we can acknowledge this, we can move forward.
12. Give up the excuses. Excuses are like fears. They don't exist. We can do anything if we put our mind to it. So no more excuses.
13. Give up the past. The past is the past. Leave it there. Live for today and enjoy each moment.
14. Give up attachments. This is hard for many of us. We have all heard the saying that in the end you can't take it with you. This is so true. It is better to learn early on that people and moments are way more important than things. We also need to know that others love us for us and that should be good enough.
15. Give up living life to others' expectations. We all have a life to live. It is so important to live our life the way we want and not worry what someone else thinks.

We can't change others but we can start by changing ourselves. If each of us were to live a kinder and happier life, our world would be a better place. There is enough negativity in society. If we start giving up these negative ways, we can change the world one person at a time.

Here's to a peaceful ending to 2014!!

Take care,

Keri

Keeping Up with Keri

Boy, it feels like forever since I've updated you guys. Having 4 kids, our lives get a bit busy. When I do have some down time I am reading and researching information for my life purpose. I am working with Angels and trying to help kids.

The universe has been bringing the people to me so I know that I'm on the right path. There are so many kids out there who feel alone and crazy. They turn to drugs and violence because they feel that that is their only way out. If we adults would just take the time and listen (not judge), these kids could be in a better place.

One of the most important things I tell people is that you must love yourself first. Self love is the key to all happiness. It must come from the inside. For kids who are constantly told they are weird or unliked, it makes it hard for them to love themselves. We must help them undo these negative thoughts. These kids need to know that they are not alone and that there are others just like them everywhere.

We were put here to learn and grow and to love one another. If we cannot complete our lessons, we will come back. Past lives is a real thing. If someone has an unexplained ailment or fear that can't be helped, past life regression can help. It is an amazing thing to find out why we have an anxiety or a recurring pain that we can't explain. Once we acknowledge what has happened in the past, these issues can be cured. 

The more research I do the more I understand our mission. We must do our best to love one another. We are all connected. If we mistreat people, we will be sent back and may be mistreated ourselves so we learn from this. Isn't it just better to get it all right this time around. We must help kids to understand that they have their entire lives ahead of them. God gave them awesome gifts that they need to uncover so that they can help others. God wants everyone to be happy and to have everything in life.

Kids need different outlets to express themselves. Find out from them what they need to help them move to the next level. If they are feeling completely drained and exhausted, tell them to take a shower. They might have taken on too much energy from school or a store.  I am finding out that Myrrh is a great oil to use in a bath. It helps to calm and protect us from the harsh energies around us. It has worked for me! Kids need alternative methods to release harsh energies.

I will continue to help every kid I meet wherever I go. I just seem to know who needs my help. If I can save a life, then I know I have done my job.

Just remember that the kid sitting next to you may need your help. Give him a smile, it may just make his day!!

Keri

Losing Friends...Moving Forward

Hello again!
I happen to start my day reading an amazing article. It's about losing friends. I find the timing of this article funny because I had a dream about a past friend. I think after reading this article, I have figured out this person's reason for being in my life and then exiting.

Have you ever wondered why you are no longer friends with someone? Do you wonder why you lose friends or feel alone? Well, I'm here to tell you that it has to do with Spiritual Awakening. One day you wake and think, "what is the purpose of all of this?" You start questioning things you have learned. You start thinking outside the box. For those still inside the box, they think your crazy and then the next thing you know you are fighting with your friend.

I'm here to tell you that it is okay to cut your friends loose or for them to move on. I have been on my spiritual path and have had to move on from the negativity. My life purpose is to help kids be who they are meant to be so that our world is a better place. I no longer care what others think about that. If they dislike me so be it. Our kids are our future. The kids of today have special gifts that will help our world. We need them to know they are welcome in this world. We need to stop the group thinking.

If a child questions authority in any way, they are treated as an outcast. This is unacceptable. We need to raise more independent thinkers which I discussed in a previous blog. It is time to listen to our hearts and not go with the majority. I stopped watching the news because they want you to think a certain way. How do I know what they are saying is real or true? I don't. All it does is get me upset and put me in a fear based mood. How does that help me live a great life? It doesn't.

Once you realize you no longer care what others think, you are entering your spiritual awakening. You start attracting others who think like you do. Those other people move on. People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. This is so true. If someone leaves your life, the lessons have been learned. If you look back, you can see why that person came into your life, when they did, and why they left. If a person is in your life for a lifetime, then you are constantly learning lessons from that person.

We were all put here to learn lessons and to grow. I know I am learning each day and am growing so that I can help kids be themselves without ridicule. My daughter should not have to have apples thrown at her at lunch  just because she doesn't fit what the jocks think is cool. If I could be in that school, I would be telling those boys that different is in and that they are just insecure in their own skin. Our education system needs to change, but that is for another blog.

Well, I hope I gave you something to think about. Review your past relationships and wipe those tears away. Know that you learned something so that you could move forward in your life.

Take care,
Keri

Lighten Up a Little

I must admit that this past week has been a bit nutty. The energy has been making me crazy. It seems to be affecting a lot people. The drivers on the roads seem to not know what they are doing. Of course, this brought on a lot of irritation for me. I just like to get from A to B.

When I was at the store, I started to feel overwhelmed. I decided to go into the bathroom and wash my hands up to my elbows and ask the universe to take away all of the energy. I must say that when I came out of the bathroom I felt tons better.

I'm telling my kids to do this when they are at school or events. If the energy around them gets them all worked up, they should hit the bathroom. Also, I have found that when kids get home from school they should not start on their homework right away. This is the time for a bath or shower to get rid of all that stuff they picked up from school. They should wash their body of the energies. After they are done, they will be able to focus better and they will be refreshed.

I have been using this technique a lot this past week. I have been getting irritated wherever I go. After a nice shower or bath, I feel like me again. Energy is everywhere. The first thing I say to my kids when they start acting spazzy is "Maybe you should take a shower to get that nastiness out of you!"

Many kids can handle the energies but more and more kids are being born very sensitive. So when your teen comes home and starts snapping for no good reason, send them to the bathroom.

Water washes away more than dirt. It cleanses the soul and allows our mind to focus on the moment.  Try it next time you get irritated. Just make sure to ask the universe to take all the energy that isn't yours and to return it to wherever it came from.

I am expecting this week to get better. The sun is out and I plan to spend time outside since nature is also a calming source.

Take care and let me know if this works for you,

Keri

It's Time for Optimism

In this world  there is so much craziness going on, it can be hard to be optimistic. If you know me, I am always looking for the bright side. It is better to look for the good in everything. I truly believe things work out. There is no reason to worry and have doom and gloom thoughts. Being pessimistic only brings you down. So why are people pessimistic? It's probably because they believe if they set their expectations low, when something good happens then they are surprised.

By being pessimistic, you prevent yourself from enjoying things in life. Remember the more negative you are, the more negative things happen. If you have a hard time staying positive, try these steps.

• Stop forcing yourself to be happy. Just go with the flow and have no expectations. You never know who you are going to meet and what opportunities might come up.
• Reinterpret problems. Just because you lost a game or failed a test doesn't make you suck at that sport or subject. Maybe you had a bad day. So look at the other side of things and not make them personal.
• Set small goals. Maybe you could work on one technique that may help you play better or study one subject so that you can do better next time on the test. Don't put the pressure of having to get an A in your mind. Just tell yourself to do your best and that is enough.
• Keep trying and don't give up. Optimists always say, I will try one more time no matter what. If you can set a goal of 3 more tries then you may get it in the first one. 
• See both sides of things. You can see you might be getting a cold. Don't say I'm sick and I feel like crap because you will. Instead acknowledge you have a stuffy nose and say I will be better tomorrow. You can heal your body with positive thoughts. You just have to believe it.
• Make a list of the good things that have happened within the last 6 months. This helps you to be more optimistic about the future.
• Be grateful. Write down 5 things a day in which you are grateful. You could be grateful for walking, for food in your stomach, for shelter, for your sight...for anything. This helps you stay in that positive zone.

If you practice gratitude and looking for the good in things, your mindset will change. I have been teaching my kids to do this. If they start doing this at a young age, then it will be easy for them as adults. There is always something to be grateful for. Be thankful, believe, and you shall receive!

Take care,

Keri

Those Manipulating Kids 😳

Hello my friends!
Happy Friday! So glad we made it through another week.

Got some great info for those parents out there. Seems like articles fall in my lap at just the right time. Another great article from Silva. I just typed up a newsletter about 12 Steps for Self Love and now I find one about Sticking to Your Values - A Guide for Parents. The Silva Method comes out with great info if you want to check them out.

For now, I would like to give my take on Sticking to Your Values. Kids are master manipulators and are always pushing our buttons. My son was just doing that today on the way to school. Good thing I get a break to regroup!

1. Pick your battles. We've all heard this before, for it is true. You have to decide what rules you can relax. I have learned that fighting over a snack is just not worth it. Is is hurting anyone? No. I have become a great negotiator. There are certain things like not answering the door that I will not give in. Could it be harmful? Yes. So as a parent, you need to decide the give and take, but it is important to be flexible with the rules.
2. Be a parent AND a friend. I have to work on this one because I believe we must help guide our kids as parents. When kids come to us with problems, they want to be treated with respect, kindness and love. Even teens want that closeness they had as a kid. I guess this is where the friend part comes in. We treat our friends with respect and give them advice so I guess we should use the same technique with our teens. I guess this isn't so bad since we can say No if something goes against our beliefs.
3. Explain the "why". As said in a previous blog, it is better to explain why we came to our decision rather than saying "Because I said so." This goes back to creating independent thinkers vs blind followers. We should respect our child's viewpoint. This is an area I am working on daily.
4. Evolve..and parent appropriately. I get this. We shouldn't make our teens sit in the time out chair. We should communicate with them in a respectful manner. As our kids grow, we need to adjust our techniques.
5. Manage your expectations. This is a hard one. Parents expect so much from their kids. Sometimes parents should just let the kids be who they are and accept them and their own likes and dislikes. I'm never gonna like anime but I want to understand my daughter so I research and learn about it because she likes it. I still expect her to do well in school and be respectful. We just need to know that our kids have their own interests and we should act like we understand.
6. Communicate! This is a big one. If we punish a child for taking something, we should make sure we tell them upfront that this item isn't for them. Communication is key. It isn't fair to the child if they didn't know because we didn't tell them. That is our problem not theirs.
7. Helping the child to fix problems and find age appropriate solutions. This one can be tough if you have an emotional child. I guess the best thing to do is to help the child calm down, then ask what the problem is and see if there is a simple solution. If not, maybe there is another way to approach the issue. I guess this all goes back to communicating.
8. Lead by example. Kids do mimic us. When we think they aren't listening, they usually are. I know my son pays attention to my speed. He tends to remind me that I'm going more when I should be doing less! I guess that's a good thing.

It all comes down to helping our kids be good people. We want them to have the best life possible. We are here to guide them and to remember we are not dictators. We are nurturers.

I've recently updated my website to be more family friendly. Check it out if you have a minute.

Http://www.kidssouldesire.com

Thanks,

Keri

Why Kids Soul Desire?

We live in a new world. The old ways are no longer working. As you see in the news, there is a lot of war and fighting. We can change this. How you might ask? By starting with our kids.

My goal is to help parents and educators help kids be who they are truly meant to be. As a child, I always felt different and wondered why no one was like me. It's not that I didn't like myself. It's that I knew from a young age that there was more to life. I was always questioning things and getting in trouble. I was determined to be someone who could take care of herself, no matter what was going on around me.

I was miserable in high school. Kids would brag and hang out with the cool kids. I just decided that I would be nice to everyone and just get through school because this wasn't real life.  When I think of today's society, I find that the kids who are bullied or unliked sometimes take inappropriate actions like suicide or harming others. I knew as a kid that that wasn't the right way either. I poured myself into writing. I would write poems or stories to escape my world. Nowadays, kids go to video games, YouTube, and anime. They are never truly alone.

Most kids won't talk about what's going on inside of them. I try my best to engage kids whenever I get a chance because I want them to know that they matter. Kids like I was tend to be withdrawn and don't know where to go. I was one of the few that knew there were bigger and better things out there. High school is just 4 years of a long life.

Once I was able to get away from high school, I went on to college and found a huge new world. I met more people and earned a BS in Electrical Engineering. I have a feeling that I obtained that degree to show the world I can do anything.

I went on to work at Microsoft back in the beginning of its day. At the time, I thought it was no big deal, but hey Microsoft came to be known as a huge and inovative company. Good thing I kept that stock!!

I didn't realize my purpose was to work with kids until I had 4 of them! I then realized I needed a place where kids could come and play and have fun together. I opened Gym 4 Tykes..a fitness, fun and friends place. It was a great 3 years where I could get to know lots of kids. I loved being around these little kids and seeing them grow and learn. I fed off the excitement in their eyes.

I was very sad when I had to close this gym. I will always cherish the memories there. Most of the kids are teenagers now. I have been volunteering and substitute teaching in schools and have seen kids struggle with who they are. I see who they are. I know my purpose is to help these kids be everything they can be in life. I want to help our educators change the way they interact with kids. There needs to be more engagement and thinking outside the box. We need to work together to help these kids love themselves so that they can use their gifts to help others.

This is my message to the world. I am hoping that whoever reads this can help me help those kids!!

It will happen..maybe not today..but it will happen and our world will become a more peace loving world.

Helping one kid at a time....
Keri

Independent Thinker

Hello world!!

I'm not sure where to start today. I usually just go with it and write about what I feel. So, today I happened upon an article that really touched me. It goes with my whole idea about letting your child be who they are meant to be.  I never knew there was a term for it. I just thought my kids thought outside the box or were nonconformists.

Well, the phrase is independent thinker. I guess the goal as a parent would be to raise an independent thinking child. I must say my kids definitely dance to their own beat. When they were little, I would say no, don't do that. Now, I'm trying my best to answer the question "why?" with real answers and not just because I said so. Children are sponges and constantly want to learn. When they go to school and question their teachers, they shouldn't have to come home feeling stifled.

Most schools force children into a box. If they step out of that box, they are known as troublemakers or nonconformists. I look at that and say, it is better to think on your own than to be told how to think. My kids have taught me so much. I am still learning and make tons of mistakes, but I am truly trying to do right by them. I take more time to listen. I tell them my concerns and why I think the way I do. If you think about it, all I want for my kids is for them to be happy, be good citizens and live a great life.

We were all put here for a reason and our kids need to find their purpose on their own. Most people force kids to fit in so they are not bullied or excluded. But hey, if you think about it, different is good. You make your own decisions and you don't let others influence you. I believe this all goes back to self love. You must love yourself first before others.

To manifest your dreams, you must be an independent thinker. I know I don't let others influence me. I make my own decisions mainly from the heart. For kids, we need to guide them to make their own decisions. Below are 5 key points parents should look at.

1. "Because I said so" is one of the biggest no nos in independent thinking. Believe me, I have done this a lot. I have learned it is better to explain why. Because I said so is not helping our kids to be independent. It shows them that we think we are king and what we say goes. How would you feel if some other adult said that to you? I know I would say "Oh really??" I am learning to explain things to my kids. If I don't want them to do something, I give them the reasons. It's best to create a dialog.
2. "You need to ....." do this or that. This is a big one and yes I'm guilty. I have noticed a change lately in how I'm wording things. I must be on to something because the article states that we need to reword things to say "I need you to..." I totally understand this. By pushing our needs onto the child, they can't be independent thinkers. By saying "I need you to clean your room." shows them it is our issue. Of course, kids don't care if they can't walk through their room. What's the big deal right? If someone says to an adult, you need to do this. That person would probably say, "Uh, no I don't!" That's how our child thinks too.
3. Explain viewpoints...I must say I'm very good at this one. If someone wants to camp outside a store for 2 days just to get the new iPhone, that is their business. I might think it is crazy, but to each their own. By letting our kids know that maybe our family wouldn't do that, it is just fine for those other people. They aren't hurting anyone.
4. Open communication is key. This is an area I always work on with my kids. I want them to know, they can ask me anything. We discuss everything and it is ok if disagree. We all have our own opinions. As kids grow, they will decide what their belief system will be.
5. Lastly, we must support our different viewpoints. Our children are not our little soldiers. They have their own opinions on how they view things. We should support our children even when they might challenge their teacher or have a different way of looking at something. Believe me, I've had to deal with many teachers who said my kids were troublemakers because they wouldn't do exactly what they said to do. We are here to help our children grow.

I know this was a long blog today but I felt that I needed to get the word out so that our kids don't feel crazy for being different. I know how they feel because I was that child.

For more on this article you can go to How to Raise an Independent Thinking Child.

Also, if you know of any kids who feel different or alone, have them go to my sign up page for free videos that will help them accept themselves for who they are... KidsSoulDesire

Thanks again for stopping by.

Improving Your Body, Mind and Soul: The Challenges of Parenthood

Improving Your Body, Mind and Soul: The Challenges of Parenthood: Parenting...now that is a heavy topic. I thought I would tackle this tonight because I have been having some interesting conversations wi...

The Challenges of Parenthood

Parenting...now that is a heavy topic.

I thought I would tackle this tonight because I have been having some interesting conversations with my kids. My 4 kids are all different. Actually, all the people in our family are different.

This can be a challenge. What works for one person might not work for another. I try my best to work with my kids and to be honest. One of my pet peeves is lying or being sneaky. If we can all talk openly I'm happy. But then at times, our conversations are not so happy. Sometimes they are dark which honestly bothers me.

When a teenager that is close to your family dies in a tragic car accident, it opens up a lot of conversations you wish you didn't have to have. It is a teaching moment. I have to explain things on different levels based on the child. I also have to get into those areas of discussion that are uncomfortable for most parents.

I constantly talk about drinking and drugs and hanging out with people that might not be good for your kids. Of course, we all hope and pray that our kids will be different. Well, as I am learning...kids are kids.  We must let them make some of their own mistakes and pray they aren't the big ones.

I must say that I'm trying my best to stay in the light and to keep things positive. I am realizing I can only talk so much and hope they are listening.  I go back to my room and think about our conversations and just hope and pray that things will work out. Things always work out.

There is a reason for everything and I must accept this. If I keep myself on that positive path, then things with my kids will stay positive too. The law of vibration is at work. My lesson for tonight is to let go of the worry and know that my kids are protected and that they are on their life's path.

Boy have I learned a lot from my kids. I keep adding more and more to my book which I hope to publish by the end of the year. It's Kids Soul Desire - Inspiring the desires within your child.

Have a great night!

Keri

Helping a Relationship Thrive

It's almost October already. Boy, how time flies. I have been reading a lot of great articles lately. One in particular that struck me as interesting was the Epic Formula for a Happy Relationship by Christie Marie Sheldon.

Christie is an awesome intuitive energy healer who helps people unblock themselves so they can grow with love and abundance. Now back to her article...

1. She says you should tell your partner I love you every day. I must say this is a wonderful idea, however; some of us are more into the physical than verbal. I say do what you feel is right for you.

2. Accept your partner "as is". To me, this means do not try to change him/her. We are who we are and as long as we know this, all is well.

3. It doesn't matter who wins a fight. No one has to be right. Agree to disagree if you must.

4.  Spend time with each other. I know this is very important. I have been married for over 20 years and realized that even though we have 4 kids, we must do things on our own. We are friends first before mom and dad.

5.  You must trust each other. If you don't, you need to work through your issues and move on.

6.  Best friends forever is key!!

7.  Have fun! Be silly!

8. Meet your partner's needs. If they are touchy feely, hug them, hold their hand.

9.  Keep the intimacy alive, however it works for you!

10.  Always look for the good in your partner.

11. Don't expect things.

12.  Communication is key!! I know this from experience. If you need something, say it!!

13. Share everything.

14. Respect is also important, hence; agree to disagree when needed. We are all different.

15.  Laugh!! Have a sense of humor. Don't sweat the small stuff!!

Life is too short to be unhappy. Be with someone you enjoy and have fun with!!

For a free healing webinar with Christie click HERE.

Take care,
Keri

What an Awesome Day!! Happy Fall!!

What a beautiful start to an awesome Fall. We have such wonderful weather!
I love sitting outside on my deck breathing in the warm fall air. It helps calm me.

This past weekend I learned that my daughter's personality is in 4-5% of the population. That is a very small group of people. I always knew she was different. We tend to clash a lot. She is a dreamer and is very disorganized. I'm learning that that is just who she is. I am trying to work on myself to better understand her.

I decided to take the personality test too. Can you believe that my personality is even rarer than hers!! I'm in 3-4% of the population. I'm an inspirer can you believe it :) Actually, that is what I have done my entire life. I'm always helping others and encouraging them to be whatever they want. My goal now is to help the kids out there know that it is ok to be who you were meant to be.  We all have gifts to share with the world.

Since I was so excited about this personality test, I had others in my family take it. My oldest son has wanted to be a dentist since 1st grade and sure enough his test came up the scientist. Dentist is on the list of professions for his personality. I also found out that my other kids and husband are all different. We are a group of individuals who were put here to work together!!

So the lesson for today is that we are all here for a reason and we are here to teach each other about love and compassion!! I'm so glad I took this test so that I could understand my family better!!

Take care...

Time to Celebrate

Improving your body, mind and soul begins with a positive attitude!
First, we need to be grateful for all we have.
Second, we need to accept ourselves just as we are.
Third, love one another!

If we can do those things, we can improve our overall well being!
Have a wonderful Sunday!!

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