Hello Universe,
I cannot believe it is already April. My kids only have 6 weeks of school left before we start our summer break. My kids always look forward to our summers together. We have road trips, fun summer camps, and see people we haven't seen in a while.
This time of year seems to be challenging for kids. I don't know if it has to do with spring or they are just tired of being pushed. I think I now understand where the term Spring Fever comes from.
Raising kids is very challenging. Not only do they depend on us, we expect a lot of from them. This can cause kids to lash out or be defiant. I think my son has finally hit his limit. He is a very challenging sensitive soul. He will not do things if he doesn't want to. Violence is not an option. He will take all punishment you give him. Sometimes this becomes exhausting as a parent.
I am currently taking a HeartMath course so that I can learn how to transform anger into positive emotions. Once I am an expert in this, I will teach my kids how to live through their hearts and then I will move on to other kids. I really could have used this technique last night when my son decides to flip out on his family. He was screaming at the top of his lungs. We encouraged him to continue this so he could get his frustrations out which only made things worse. When his brother no longer wanted to be around him, he got more upset. He threatened his brother to the point of peeing on his bed if he didn't return to their room. You heard me right....and when his brother did not return to his room he peed on his bed.
Talk about a challenging moment. I could have yelled and screamed but as you can tell nothing works with this kid. Normally, I would have him take a shower to wash all of those negative energies away but we were way beyond this. Anyways, I told my son that if he was going to act like a dog that we would treat him like one. We made him go into the garage for a time out that he thought would last all night. We kept him in there for 5 mins to show him that he cannot be part of this family and act this way. His brother was so upset with us that he wanted us to give him a second chance. After 5 mins which I'm sure felt like forever to him, we let go of the door. He came in calmly but then threatened to call the police. Once I told him what they would do, he finally gave up and went to bed.
This left us exhausted and frustrated. There is nothing in any parenting book that teaches you how to deal with your own child. Each soul is different. What works for one child will not work for another. I am continuously learning each day how to handle the frustrated souls of my children. God gave them to me for a reason and hopefully I can do my duty and get them to adulthood. All we can do is the best we can and hope the next day we can do a better job. I will not beat myself up over this but learn from it and hope that I can handle the next outburst in a better way.
To all the parents out there going through this every day....hang in there. We must do what we need to do to help get these sensitive souls get to adulthood.
Take care,
Keri
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